Living a Healthy Emotional Life

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It recently dawned on me that being emotionally fit is just as important as being physically fit. Through self discovery, I've been working on being emotionally healthy as much as I've been working on my physical fitness. I know for sure that both require a great deal of dedication.

As I grow, I feel like I'm going through a metamorphosis. Recently, I decided to work on how I allow fear to stop me from speaking my mind. I get scared about the confrontation that may occur and decide to go with what's polite. For instance, saying what I think my sister would like to hear instead of speaking my mind so that she doesn't give me the silent treatment for several weeks after a phone conversation. I'm not like this with everyone though. This fear didn't happen over night but it's been going on for too long and I'm putting an end to it.


To paraphrase Iyanla Vanzant, on a recent Oprah's Lifeclass, denying the truth so that you don't have to deal with the confrontation? You've got to be willing to loose (if you tell the truth) everything to gain yourself. When I heard that, I almost cried because it was as if she was talking to me directly. Speaking the truth doesn't mean you say things to others with malice intentions. 


When I don't speak my truth, I feel uncomfortable because it goes against my gut. Not long ago I told a friend that not being yourself is like wearing a pair of ill fitting shoes. It's painful. I'm doing my best to live truthfully because I don't care for painful shoes.


Bill Cosby once said, "I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone." I'll please others because it's something I want to do but I'll no longer please others to avoid a confrontation. For my emotional health, I'm willing to loose by speaking my truth. How about you? Here's to your health!